Hello, my wonderful warriors! I hope your day so far is amazing, or if it is over I hope your night brings rest. So continuing in the back to school series, I planned to talk about body image and how that plays into relationships. In high school, it seems like everything is amplified. Crushes, homework, stress, friendships, body image, everything. For me, it’s hard to not draw a line connected relationships with the way I see my body.
So continuing in the back to school series, I planned to talk about body image and how that plays into relationships. In high school, it seems like everything is amplified. Crushes, homework, stress, friendships, body image, everything. For me, it’s hard to not draw a line connecting relationships with the way I see my body.
I feel like many girls and boys struggle with the same thing. We immediately think if someone does not like us back it has to be because of the way we look. Sadly this is true sometimes, but if it’s true, then the person does not deserve you. You are precious and your body is not what makes you desirable. Your personality, your heart, your soul, your thirst for God, is what should make a man (or woman) fall in love with you. And the majority of times when a high school relationship fails it is because it started with the lustful desire of the other’s body. They also fail because they are not built on a healthy foundation. Both sides have to be equally interested in the relationship, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
I know coming back to school was nerve-racking for me. It’s very hard for me not to think that the way I look is how I attracted a guy. I have to tell myself differently. I can’t get caught up in the cycle. It is so easy to pick out outfits for a certain person in mind, dressing for them and not for you. It’s easy to act a certain way in order for that person to notice you. But in all honesty, if they are interested in you, they will pursue you, and if the relationship is going to succeed they need to do so because they fell in love with you, not your body.
If I let ED control that part of me than it is winning. If I tell myself that the reason I am single is that of how I look, then ED is winning yet again in my life. I have to stop that train of thought. I have to remember that God has a plan for me. Everything I am doing is not about my relationship with the opposite sex, but about my relationship with God. Because God endlessly pursues us the way we crave to be pursued by our crush, or whoever it is. So, in order to not focus on my body and the way others may see me, I pray.
“For I know the plans I have for you”, declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
Every day I try and pray for my future husband. Just a quick prayer. I ask God to be with him wherever he is, to help him grow spiritually and to help him make godly choices. By doing this I am not focusing on a specific person, instead I am focusing on Gods will for my life. Instead of praying that some guy likes me back, I pray for the ultimate and perfect guy that God made with me in mind, to be growing closer to God also.
Our bodies are not things we can destroy or pick and choose their shape. Our bodies are simply shells we’ve been given. What matters is who we are with or without our bodies. Who were is what is important. Our bodies are a beautiful and amazing creation, but they do not compare to how amazing our soul is. Us as people are given bodies in order to go out and share the gospel.
We have to take care of our bodies. We have to know that our bodies are amazing. Each body takes its own shape. Isn’t that crazy? Isn’t it crazy how every body is intrinsically made and specifically different? No body is the same. That is a beautiful thing. You should bath in the knowledge that your body was hand made by the Creator himself. It was designed to house your beautiful soul, and designed to be a flowing temple for you to love and spread the love with.
“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
My goal for you:
- Take the time to write on a sheet of paper what you are looking for in your future spouse.
- Now look at the paper, review it and make sure what you have written is actually important to you. Not just things that our culture has told us is important in a spouse, but things God has said are important in a spouse.
- Pray to God for your future spouse. Thank Him for creating someone perfectly made just for you.
I hope your week is amazing, and that you take the time to thank God for all he has done for you.