Hello, wonderful lovely best friend warriors!! So I want to start up a section of my blog for just every day useful tips, tricks and keys to living the best life for you.
So I am starting with one that I know every single person struggles with: self-confidence. Every human struggles with self-confidence and loving themselves fully. So thats the first thing; you’re not alone. Look around you. Everyone else is struggling to love themselves and to feel confident not only in their bodies, but in themselves.
Self-confidence is much more than accepting your body and loving it (which are two completely different things), it is more importantly about accepting yourself. Accepting your personality your things that make you unique.
So, lets get into it.
Key 1: Get to know yourself.
Take time and figure out who you are. Really sit down, lay down, and figure out who you are. Make a list if that helps. Make a list in your head (or written) of things you love and things that excite you, things that make you angry and that you have a passion for, and things that you dislike and can absoloutly not stand.
Figure out the little parts of you, even if they are things you don’t like. Write down everything you love about yourself and the things that you don’t like that much. Start out simple. Figure out all the little parts that make you up and make you who you are “good” and “bad”.
Key 2: Decide what is important to you.
You can make a list if you would like, but just think on it. Think to yourself about what is important to you. Not only the things that are currently important to you, but the things you want to value and the things you want to be a part of your life.
When you figure out what is important to you, you can figure out the way you want to strive to live your life. You can think about the life that would prove that those things are important. If the number one thing on your list as most important is not “the [erfect body”, than your off to a good start. Your life, in order to be the best life, should be shaped around things that can’t change, things that aren’t the way you look. Looks are fleeting. Shaping our happiness on something so simple as how we look results in the loss of that very happiness if you were to wake up one day and look slightly different. It is way to fickle.
Key 3: Act it, even if you don’t believe it.
I know its cliche, but it is true. Act like your confident. Walk into a room and remind yourself that you are worthy. My therapist told me that every time I walk through a door way to say reaffirming statements. So, I would walk into a room and tell my self “I am worthy because I am a kind person.” I would reaffirm myself, tell myself all the things that are good about myself and focus on what is good rather than the things I wanted to change.
By acting like you have the confidence you are wishing for, you are teaching yourself to be confident. You are slowing learning what it would be like to truly believe that you are loved, especially by yourself, and eventually you will believe it. You’ll truly have the confidence you are craving. Surround yourself with people who have confidence, and who are not constantly self-deprecating.
Be True To You.
Accept yourself, and live the life that brings you pure joy. Be the you that you love, someone who you have craved to be and who you admire the most. Be the person you have always wanted to be, not physically, but in every other aspect. Once you are confident that will bleed into the way you carry yourself, it will become a part of you, and others WILL notice. They will see a change.
It is by no means easy, and I won’t pretend it is. Loving yourself is so difficult, and I am not sure if you can ever come to a place of complete never swaying love for yourself. But, I do believe that everyday when you wake up, you can tell yourself that you are perfect exactly how you are and that today is going to be a good day.
You decide how you live your life, so choose wisely. Choose the life that not only you love, but brings love to others.